Honor Your Sovereignty

I witness a lot of women waiting for permission to take action.

Educational decisions.

Career decisions.

Business decisions.

Reproductive decisions.

Financial decisions.

Clothing decisions.

Hair style decisions.

Health decisions.

Etc. Etc. Etc.

And, I used to be the same way. I thought EVERYTHING was a team decision. I thought all of MY business was HIS business. I thought all of MY time was HIS time. I thought all of MY resources were HIS resources.

So, I would wait. For everything. I needed approval. I needed permission. And it was SUPER easy to self righteously justify.

What I did not realize was I was asking permission for ALL the wrong things.

I was assuming my husband was ENTITLED to access my time, attention, labor, resources, and body. It was his RIGHT, because we were a couple. I allowed him to HIJACK my own ability to make decisions, because I thought that was the way it was SUPPOSED to be. I thought that was what I needed to do to be a GOOD partner.

Today, I ask permission VERY differently.

Being a good partner does NOT mean giving up my ability to make independent decisions. On the contrary, my own strength and sovereignty is an ASSET.

I ask ZERO permission to access, use, or make changes to MY OWN:

TIME

ATTENTION

LABOR

RESOURCES

BODY

PRIVACY

Everyone ELSE gets to ask ME permission to access any of these things and I don’t have to have any justification to say NO.

AND

I get to ask permission to access ANYONE ELSE’S

TIME

ATTENTION

LABOR

RESOURCES

BODY

PRIVACY