
Honor Your Sovereignty
Updated: Dec 21, 2021
I witness a lot of women waiting for permission to take action.
Educational decisions.
Career decisions.
Business decisions.
Reproductive decisions.
Financial decisions.
Clothing decisions.
Hair style decisions.
Health decisions.
Etc. Etc. Etc.
And, I used to be the same way. I thought EVERYTHING was a team decision. I thought all of MY business was HIS business. I thought all of MY time was HIS time. I thought all of MY resources were HIS resources.
So, I would wait. For everything. I needed approval. I needed permission. And it was SUPER easy to self righteously justify.
What I did not realize was I was asking permission for ALL the wrong things.
I was assuming my husband was ENTITLED to access my time, attention, labor, resources, and body. It was his RIGHT, because we were a couple. I allowed him to HIJACK my own ability to make decisions, because I thought that was the way it was SUPPOSED to be. I thought that was what I needed to do to be a GOOD partner.
Today, I ask permission VERY differently.
Being a good partner does NOT mean giving up my ability to make independent decisions. On the contrary, my own strength and sovereignty is an ASSET.
I ask ZERO permission to access, use, or make changes to MY OWN:
TIME
ATTENTION
LABOR
RESOURCES
BODY
PRIVACY
Everyone ELSE gets to ask ME permission to access any of these things and I don’t have to have any justification to say NO.
AND
I get to ask permission to access ANYONE ELSE’S
TIME
ATTENTION
LABOR
RESOURCES
BODY
PRIVACY