The "Ideal" Man

Updated: Dec 21, 2021

I grew up thinking the ideal man was a good leader. Strong. A good provider. Successful. Confident. Decisive. Protective. Loyal. And, today, I realize so much was missing from that picture.

It is not hard to find men who believe they are meant to be the authority in the home. It is not hard to find men who believe it is their right and duty to lead and govern their women. It is not hard to find men who believe it is their duty to make the household money. It is not hard to find men who believe it is their responsibility to focus on work. It is not hard to find men who hold themselves to a standard of physical and mental strength, and refuse to show any perceived weakness. It is not hard to find men who believe they are the decision makers. It is not hard to find men who believe it is their duty to protect their women. It is not hard to find men who believe it is their obligation to stay faithful. I realize my perception of the “ideal man” did a lot of harm in my relationships. Because I thought these were ideal roles only for men to play, I attracted men who did NOT like to see leadersh