Stand Tall & Own Your Boundaries

Updated: Dec 14, 2021

“You’re such a buzz kill.”

These were the words used to describe me, after I told a guest substances were not allowed in my home.

These words were meant to offend me and intended to make me feel bad about holding a sacred boundary in my home.

Instead of fighting the accusation and trying to make myself appear “easy” and “fun”, I stood up tall and owned it.

“Yep. I am a buzz kill. I am a snob and I am high maintenance. I have standards I am not ashamed of.”

I instantly felt the power drain out of the accusation he meant to be shameful. I felt pride rush into my body, for all of the work I have done to stop prioritizing everyone else’s comfort over mine.

I continued.

“I do not wish to stand in the way of anyone’s lifestyle or the way anyone chooses to be happy. I don’t judge them if they wish to drink or smoke or use however they like. AND I get one little slice of this earth - my sanctuary. And it gets to be governed on MY TERMS and by MY STANDARDS.”

This is how a Goddess governs her domain.

You are not obligated to accommodate yourself to others’ choices in your own sanctuary. It is YOURS.