Toxic Positivity

Updated: Dec 6, 2021

We have learned to have an intolerance for unpleasant truth. In the era of “positive thinking”, we have conveniently learned to excuse ourselves from having to look at the truth of our shadows. Instead of accessing and activating empathy for another human, vulnerability sharing their pain, we have learned to dodge and redirect stealthily, giving the underhanded but clear message, “I don’t want to hear about your pain. It makes me uncomfortable and I’d rather you would just be quiet about it”. We just don’t quite say it like that… Instead we say:


  • “Don’t give it energy”

  • “Focus on the positive”

  • “But there were good times too”