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Nov 25, 2020
2 min

But What If They Think I'm Difficult?

I’m a SNOB. And I’m ok with that. Back in the day, I avoided the perception of being a snob. High maintenance. Picky. Difficult....

Jillian Aurora

Nov 7, 2020
1 min

YOUR way is the right way for YOU.

Thank you to the rebel rousers and truth tellers. Thank you to the listeners. Thank you to the peacemakers. Thank you to the...

Jillian Aurora

Oct 22, 2020
1 min

You Aren't a Slot Machine

“I feel guilty I don’t love him back.” “He’s been so nice to me.” “He’s been such a gentleman.” “He’s bought me lots of nice things.”...

Jillian Aurora

May 4, 2020
3 min

I refuse to be the GOOD GIRL.

I used to be the best student. I was the good girl everyone hated. I was the teacher’s pet. I was the one who always turned her homework...

Jillian Aurora

Mar 31, 2022

How to spot a predator

Every time I hear of a good hearted individual who has been exploited, taken advantage of, and preyed upon, I feel a burning and...

Jillian Aurora

Jun 11, 2021

He Deserves More Than Your Pity

Pity Love… Some of you are out there thinking… “I can’t leave because he won’t know what to do without me” “I don’t know what he would do...

Jillian Aurora

Jun 5, 2021

We Have A Problem With Men's Violence

Ahmad Al Aliwi Alissa killed 10 people on March 22, 2021 at a market in Boulder CO. 21 year old male, no criminal record, motivation...

Jillian Aurora

Jun 4, 2021

The Art of Dehumanization

“Anyone who isn’t a Patriot is a Traitor.” “Anyone who supports Trump is a White Supremacist.” “I refuse to unify with THEM.” We are...

Jillian Aurora

Apr 28, 2021

The Illusion of Easy Exits

“There’s always a time to easily exit a relationship. It’s during those bad times that define a true power couple.” I read this comment a...

Jillian Aurora

Apr 26, 2021

Let's Talk About Trust

“I don’t know how to learn to trust again.” I hear this OVER and OVER. Then I hear some version of desperately trying to figure out how...

Jillian Aurora

Apr 24, 2021

You Say You Want A Man Who....

You say you want a man who knows how to treat you well, yet you joke about men being so oblivious and dense they need “training”. You say...

Jillian Aurora

Mar 31, 2021

When You're the Exception

"None of the other women he’s been with could handle him.” “No one has taken the time to love him the way he needs.” “He’s an unruly...

Jillian Aurora

Mar 20, 2021

It's Time We Take Responsibility

When a woman shows up with a black eye, do you look for a reason to excuse his violence? When a woman is embarrassed about the verbal...

Jillian Aurora

Mar 12, 2021

We Fight For Every Woman

My abuser could smell a powerful woman from a mile away. He knew my exposure to her intense, free spirited independence might make me...

Jillian Aurora

Feb 26, 2021

Let's Talk About Loyalty

We traditionally see loyalty as a good thing. It’s one of the most POWERFUL values of the “good girl” identity. “I am GOOD because I am...

Jillian Aurora

Feb 22, 2021

Love Shouldn't Be Transactional

There are many reasons I have heard women use to justify their own mistreatment. There were many ways I myself justified relationships...

Jillian Aurora

Feb 19, 2021

Boundaries

Often when people start to wake up to the idea of boundary setting, it is overwhelming. What boundaries do I set? Am I really allowed to...

Jillian Aurora

Feb 17, 2021

You Were Created for MORE

You were created for more than having a relationship. Yet, many of us women live as if it is our sole objective. Like we are incomplete...

Jillian Aurora

Feb 15, 2021

Settling is Always Based in Fear

“You can’t always get what you want.” “You have to be realistic.” “You just have to take what you can get.” “Better to play it safe.”...

Jillian Aurora

Feb 12, 2021

Relationships Require Settling?

My whole life, I have heard people say “relationships require compromise”, “every relationship requires a degree of settling”, and “you...

Jillian Aurora

Feb 10, 2021

Stand Tall & Own Your Boundaries

“You’re such a buzz kill.” These were the words used to describe me, after I told a guest substances were not allowed in my home. These...

My Resentment Is One of My Most Profound Gifts

Jillian Aurora

Feb 8, 2021

My Resentment Is One of My Most Profound Gifts

My resentment is one of my most profound gifts. Yep. I didn’t mistype that. My resentment shows me where I am compromising my standards...

Jillian Aurora

Feb 5, 2021

Let's Talk About Manifestation

“If I just ‘manifest better’ my relationship will improve.” “People around me are abusive because they are a reflection of my inner...

Jillian Aurora

Feb 4, 2021

You Are Worthy of Boundaries

Don’t ever expect people who are taking advantage of you to celebrate your boundaries. They will be the ones who will bring up ALL the...

Jillian Aurora

Dec 30, 2020

You Are Not FRAGILE.

I refuse to treat you as fragile. I understand you have been through hell. I understand you have been cruelly kicked down and belittled....

Jillian Aurora

Dec 28, 2020

When Does It Get Easier?

When do I get to stop having these difficult conversations? When will people stop trying to break into my life, creating chaos? When will...

Jillian Aurora

Dec 21, 2020

My Thanks to Divine Kings

Many men find my message threatening. They don’t want their partners following me. They don’t want their partners reading my work. They...

Jillian Aurora

Dec 19, 2020

Violence is Not Unpredictable

We like to think red flags are mysterious. Hard to spot until it’s too late. Evasive. I disagree. I used to believe I “couldn’t know” if...

Jillian Aurora

Dec 16, 2020

PROMISES Are Not GUARANTEES

“He VOWED to be married FOREVER.” “He CAN’T just walk away. He PROMISED.” “He HAS to change because he PROMISED.” “He HAS to stop...

Jillian Aurora

Dec 14, 2020

Accountability is LOVE

If I say I’m committed to being honest and you catch me lying, DON’T be PATIENT with me. If I say I’m committed to being real and you...

Jillian Aurora

Dec 12, 2020

FORGIVENESS

“Be the bigger person. Forgive.” “Why should I be the one to forgive when I’m the victim?!” “Staying angry is like drinking poison and...

Jillian Aurora

Dec 11, 2020

Are You a Caregiver, Or a Partner?

“You take such good care of him.” “I don’t know what he would do without you.” “I’m so glad you’re in his life to keep him straightened...

Jillian Aurora

Dec 9, 2020

Our "Politeness" is Killing Us

As women, we have been deeply conditioned to be polite at all costs. A man compliments you? Smile and say “thank you”. A man offers help?...

Jillian Aurora

Dec 7, 2020

Know the Red Flag Predictions

Many years of my life, I thought domestic violence was black and white. It was easy to spot. I knew I’d never be a victim, because I...

Jillian Aurora

Nov 27, 2020

EMBRACE your RESENTMENT

“How do I stop feeling mad at my partner for lying to me?” “How do I stop feeling resentful when my partner chooses a substance over me?”...

Jillian Aurora

Nov 25, 2020

But What If They Think I'm Difficult?

I’m a SNOB. And I’m ok with that. Back in the day, I avoided the perception of being a snob. High maintenance. Picky. Difficult....

Jillian Aurora

Nov 21, 2020

SUFFERING does not equal LOVE.

“Everyone else is a fucking POSER. I care about you for REAL.” “I won’t be like everyone else who has abandoned you.” We have often...

Jillian Aurora

Nov 18, 2020

Warrior Up Goddess

“I’m an empath so I’ve just resigned myself to the fact I attract narcissists.” I saw this comment on social media the other day and it...

Jillian Aurora

Nov 14, 2020

The making of an Unapologetic Woman

How I, Jillian Aurora - an average woman - became a Goddess. I walked through the fires and the darkness. I braved lonely, confusing...

Jillian Aurora

Nov 11, 2020

It is a PRIVILEGE to experience pain

Living loyal to yourself and your calling does not mean living pain and sorrow free. It does not mean being exempt from negative...

Jillian Aurora

Nov 9, 2020

Reclaim Your Authority

“My husband won’t let me wear that.” “My partner won’t let me cut my hair.” “My spouse won’t let me compete in a fitness competition.”...

Jillian Aurora

Nov 5, 2020

Celebrate Those Who Are REPULSED By You

The other day, I informed someone my home was an alcohol free space and that he was not welcome to bring his beer inside. For a moment,...

Jillian Aurora

Nov 4, 2020

Are You Really "Over It"?

If I had a nickel for every time I heard a woman say she “just couldn’t do this anymore”, I’d be retired. I remember many moments like...

Jillian Aurora

Nov 3, 2020

What If It's My Fault?

“But what about my part?” “It takes two to create a bad marriage.” “I haven’t always been the perfect partner.” I hear these words often,...

Jillian Aurora

Oct 22, 2020

You Aren't a Slot Machine

“I feel guilty I don’t love him back.” “He’s been so nice to me.” “He’s been such a gentleman.” “He’s bought me lots of nice things.”...

Jillian Aurora

Oct 20, 2020

The Illusion of "FOREVER"

“If I’m careful to choose the right partner, I will never have to divorce.” “I’m not settling for anything but THE ONE.” In many ways, we...

Jillian Aurora

Oct 19, 2020

But... MONEY

“You’ll never travel without me.” “You’ll never be able to get nice things without me.” “You like this home? You’ll never live in a place...

Jillian Aurora

Oct 17, 2020

Safety Is Not a MYSTERY

How do I know if someone is safe and worthy of my trust? Is it a feeling? Is it knowing if someone is lying or genuine? Is it body...

Jillian Aurora

Oct 16, 2020

Freedom

What’s your freedom going to cost you? It may cost you your fancy house. It may cost you your elaborate vacations. It may cost you your...

Jillian Aurora

Oct 15, 2020

Partnership vs Ownership

“He’s so whipped.” I’ve heard this comment a few times and it always leaves me feeling disturbed. Whenever I have heard this flippant...

Jillian Aurora

Oct 2, 2020

Love Letter to Yourself

You, Love, deserve the world and more. Every desire. Every heart melting experience. Every passion that lights your soul on fire. Every...

Jillian Aurora

Sep 22, 2020

Healing Does Not Happen Through HATRED

I watch a LOT of women try to heal from a toxic relationship through hatred. They demonize their previous partners, calling them names,...

Those Who LOVE You Will CELEBRATE Your BOUNDARIES

Jillian Aurora

Sep 21, 2020

Those Who LOVE You Will CELEBRATE Your BOUNDARIES

You will be called harsh. You will be called unrealistic. You will be called inconsiderate. You will be called selfish. You will be...

Jillian Aurora

Sep 20, 2020

YOU'RE NOT FAILING

“I can’t believe I’m so broken I’m reaching out to you.” This was a message I received this morning and it broke my heart. It made me sad...

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