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Jillian Aurora
- Mar 13, 2021
- 1 min
Toxic Positivity
We have learned to have an intolerance for unpleasant truth. In the era of “positive thinking”, we have conveniently learned to excuse...
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Jillian Aurora
- Dec 11, 2020
- 2 min
Are You a Caregiver, Or a Partner?
“You take such good care of him.” “I don’t know what he would do without you.” “I’m so glad you’re in his life to keep him straightened...
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Jillian Aurora
- Nov 21, 2020
- 1 min
SUFFERING does not equal LOVE.
“Everyone else is a fucking POSER. I care about you for REAL.” “I won’t be like everyone else who has abandoned you.” We have often...
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Jillian Aurora
- Nov 3, 2020
- 2 min
What If It's My Fault?
“But what about my part?” “It takes two to create a bad marriage.” “I haven’t always been the perfect partner.” I hear these words often,...
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Jillian Aurora
- Oct 20, 2020
- 2 min
The Illusion of "FOREVER"
“If I’m careful to choose the right partner, I will never have to divorce.” “I’m not settling for anything but THE ONE.” In many ways, we...
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Jillian Aurora
- Oct 15, 2020
- 2 min
Partnership vs Ownership
“He’s so whipped.” I’ve heard this comment a few times and it always leaves me feeling disturbed. Whenever I have heard this flippant...
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Jillian Aurora
- Oct 2, 2020
- 3 min
Love Letter to Yourself
You, Love, deserve the world and more. Every desire. Every heart melting experience. Every passion that lights your soul on fire. Every...
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Jillian Aurora
- Sep 29, 2020
- 4 min
Necessary Endings Require Courage
My job is walking women through their winter seasons of life. It’s holding their hands through the grief of letting go and gut wrenching...
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Jillian Aurora
- Jul 26, 2020
- 2 min
Love takes COURAGE.
"But I really love him and I know he loves me.” This is the response I hear, over and over, when women voice concerns and frustrations...
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Jillian Aurora
- Jun 25, 2020
- 2 min
Grieving the LIVING
“He was such a jerk! Just leave him in dust and don’t look back!” “Have you seen what he did to you? WHY do you keep going back?” “You...
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Jillian Aurora
- Jun 8, 2020
- 2 min
Don't Settle For Subpar Standards
“When do I know if I should leave a relationship?” “What if I just need to stick it out for a little bit and it will get better?” “I...
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Jillian Aurora
- May 27, 2020
- 2 min
I Celebrate Hearing NO
I talk a lot about unapologetically identifying what you want and setting the standards required to be in your presence. And, I have...
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Jillian Aurora
- May 8, 2020
- 2 min
This. Is. Why. Boundaries. Will. Shake. Your. Very. Core.
“You’re just trying to control me.” “You’re making a big deal out of nothing.” “You’re being so selfish.” “You knew who I was before...
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Jillian Aurora
- Apr 24, 2020
- 2 min
Rigorous Honesty
In my years of being around the AA program, something profound has stuck out to me. They talk of “rigorous honesty”. That people who are...
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Jillian Aurora
- Apr 19, 2020
- 2 min
The dark side of LOYALTY
"The only way anyone is leaving this marriage is if one of us is dead.” “You are my forever soulmate.” “You are MINE.” “You PROMISED.”...
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Jillian Aurora
- Apr 11, 2020
- 1 min
MAKE A SCENE. It’s what you are here for.
"Why can’t I just be quieter?” “Why can’t I just be less intense?” “My laugh is so annoying.” “My stretch marks are so ugly.” “I wish I...
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Jillian Aurora
- Mar 13, 2020
- 2 min
"Soulmates"
I often see the question “Does anyone believe in soulmates anymore?” And I smile. My understanding of “soulmates” has dramatically...
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Jillian Aurora
- Mar 2, 2020
- 2 min
How can I have empathy AND set boundaries?
“How can I simultaneously care for someone I love, while also prioritizing my own needs?” “How can I stare a loved one in the face who...
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Jillian Aurora
- Jan 14, 2020
- 2 min
Unconditional Love
My misunderstanding of this concept has caused some of the most painful experiences of my life. What I thought it was. What I thought it...
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