The Labor We Expect, Not Acknowledge Every holiday table rests on quiet labor. Before the gathering, before the candles are lit, before anyone says grace or lifts a glass, hands are already working. They plan. They shop. They chop, knead, stir, lift, taste, and clean. They carry the weight of the meal for days before it becomes an event. Yet this labor is rarely named. Food is treated as if it magically appears and as though abundance is a natural condition rather than the re

This year, I walked through more grief than I thought I could handle. There were many moments when I was sure I would break. Sometimes I still feel like I might. This was not a year of gentle transition or peaceful endings. It was a year that felt cruel. I willingly left an ecosystem I loved more dearly than I had ever loved anything. I left a life that had grown thick with meaning and texture. I miss my dog and my old cat Hector with an ache that doesn’t leave. I miss feedin

For a long time, I accepted the New Year the way most of us are taught to: a clean line between what was and what might be. A moment of collective pause. A symbolic beginning. The story is nice. But the narrative never felt quite right. What we now call the New Year did not emerge from nature, intuition, or spiritual insight. It emerged from administration. From political necessity. From an empire trying to get its house in order. When Rome Lost Control of Time—and Took It Ba

Immigration is often framed as a decisive break, the before and the after, but that framing hasn't matched my lived reality. What I have experienced instead is a long, unsettled middle. An experience where one foot remains planted in what I lost (or still attempting to untangle from), while the other figures out how to step into a life that is still forming. This in-between space is not dramatic or cinematic. It is quiet, demanding, and persistent. It follows me through ordin

Thanksgiving used to be one of the most intentional days of my year. Not because of patriotism or tradition—actually the opposite. For a decade, I opened my home to anyone who wanted a place to land. My table wasn’t about turkey or spectacle; it was an annual practice in truth-telling and community. I cooked Indigenous foods, played PBS’s We Shall Remain , and held space for conversation about the real history of the holiday. It was part education, part ritual, and part quiet

There are cities that decorate for Christmas, and then there is Brașov — a place that seems to exhale winter enchantment from its medieval soul. As December settles over the Carpathians, the old town begins its transformation. Lights unfurl across rooftops, garlands drape between centuries-old walls, and the entire landscape takes on the soft glow of a fairytale. Romanians put serious, loving effort into creating a festive world, and you can feel that intention in every illum

There comes a point in every great transition when the horizon disappears. The plans that once gave you direction crumble. The numbers stop making sense. The people who promised to stay fade into their own uncertainty. And suddenly, you’re left standing in the ashes of what used to feel solid, with no clear path ahead. It’s a hollow place. But it’s also where something sacred begins. Because when everything else is stripped away, hope isn’t just an idea anymore. It becomes an

Walk through any Transylvanian town and you’ll find echoes of another world such as fortified churches, cobbled squares, pastel guild houses, Latin inscriptions, and names like Kronstadt, Hermannstadt, and Schäßburg. These are traces of the Transylvanian Saxons, the German settlers who came nearly nine centuries ago and shaped the cultural heart of the region. Arrival of the Saxons The story begins in the 12th century, when the Hungarian kings invited German colonists to sett

When suppression begins to take root, it rarely announces itself with drums or banners. It slips in quietly: a shift in tone, a...

When the world feels uncertain, the simple act of preparing food and water becomes something sacred. It is more than a survival task; it...

When the ground shakes beneath us, many face the same agonizing question: Do I stay and fight, or do I go to protect myself and those I love? Leaving can feel like betrayal. Staying can feel like self-destruction. But seeking safety has never meant surrendering your values. Stepping away does not mean abandoning the struggle. Survival, too, has always been part of resistance. The Burden of Guilt Those who leave often carry a heavy guilt. They imagine neighbors whispering, you

Autumn in Transylvania is breathtaking — golden forests draped across the Carpathians, mist curling through medieval towers, markets spilling over with apples, chestnuts, and mushrooms. It is the kind of beauty that feels ancient, rooted, and solemn. And yet, as the air cools and the leaves begin to fall, I find myself aching for another kind of autumn — the one lingering on the streets of New Castle, Pennsylvania, US. I miss the small rituals of my American fall. The way gro

Tending the hearth has never only been about comfort — it has always been about survival. In calmer times, a stocked pantry or an extra...

A hearth doesn’t disappear just because the walls around it are temporary. Sometimes the fire burns in borrowed spaces — a short-term rental, a friend’s spare room, a hotel, even a place that doesn’t feel like “yours” at all. In these in-between moments, the hearth is less about permanence and more about imagination. I’ve learned that even when life feels transient, I can still kindle that sense of home. Sometimes it is as simple as brewing coffee the way I love, letting the

The image we conjure of the hearth is solid —it's a stone fireplace, a warm table, a circle of chairs where people gather. But what happens when the hearthkeeper herself has no home? When life is in transition, when the house is sold, when exile or migration means everything familiar is left behind — does the hearth go out? The truth is, the hearth has never only been brick and mortar. It has always been carried in the hands and hearts of those who tend it. History is full of