Double Standards

Updated: Nov 7, 2020


For so long, I thought there was something wrong with me. I was too sensitive to injustice and unfairness. I would sometimes try to downplay it and would tell myself to settle down – that it wasn’t really that big of a deal. I now realize, I often deeply betrayed myself because of my own intentional ignoring of my “justice radar”. My heart was begging to point me in the direction of freedom and honor. It took me a long time to acknowledge the voice was true and pure and absolutely worthy of listening to. Double standards have been a part of my life for such a long time it is no wonder I had grown so numb to them. Some had been double standards developed in my own head, others had been imposed on me, until I finally decided I would live under no one’s thumb any longer. - It was acceptable for others in my life to be assertive and powerful, but I must be careful to use my voice in a passive and gentle way. - It was acceptable for others in my life to depend on me, but I must be careful not to depend on others lest I “owe” them something. - It was acceptable for others to make mistakes, but I must be careful to hide any imperfections in case I open myself up for criticism to be used against me. - It was acceptable for others to wear whatever they wanted, but I must be concerned about not showing too much, not being too “sloppy”, not being too “seductive”, not being too “stiff”, not being too “flimsy” because I was also responsible for the imp