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Sep 10, 2021
1 min

Tears are Nothing to Apologize for

We have been taught emotion is something to be problem solved. Something to be gotten rid of. Something to “treat”. Something to keep...

We All Need a Little Grace in Order to Grow

Jillian Aurora

Jul 6, 2021
2 min

We All Need a Little Grace in Order to Grow

It’s become really “cool” and acceptable to self-righteously condemn those that don’t agree with us. It’s never been easier to justify....

Jillian Aurora

Jun 4, 2021
2 min

The Art of Dehumanization

“Anyone who isn’t a Patriot is a Traitor.” “Anyone who supports Trump is a White Supremacist.” “I refuse to unify with THEM.” We are...

Jillian Aurora

Nov 20, 2020
2 min

Condemnation Solves Nothing

All throughout this year, I have been pressured to pick a political side. And I have been called every name in the book when I have...

Jillian Aurora

Oct 20, 2020
2 min

The Illusion of "FOREVER"

“If I’m careful to choose the right partner, I will never have to divorce.” “I’m not settling for anything but THE ONE.” In many ways, we...

Jillian Aurora

Sep 22, 2020
2 min

Healing Does Not Happen Through HATRED

I watch a LOT of women try to heal from a toxic relationship through hatred. They demonize their previous partners, calling them names,...

Jillian Aurora

Jun 25, 2020
2 min

Grieving the LIVING

“He was such a jerk! Just leave him in dust and don’t look back!” “Have you seen what he did to you? WHY do you keep going back?” “You...

Jillian Aurora

Jun 9, 2020
3 min

NO ONE is Exempt From Bad Behavior

Racists are good people. Sexists are good people. Addicts are good people. Abusers are good people. Murders are good people. IF THIS...

Jillian Aurora

Jun 5, 2020
2 min

CHECK YOURSELF

If you’re loyal to Black Lives Matter, check yourself. If you’re loyal to All Lives Matter, check yourself. If you’re loyal to the police...

Jillian Aurora

May 24, 2020
2 min

ALL People Do Bad Things

The Monsters we fear: The rapists. The child molesters. The addicts and alcoholics. The greedy. The violent abusers. The power...

Jillian Aurora

Mar 23, 2020
2 min

The Illusion of Transactional Love

"He’s my world.” “She is my everything.” “It is my job to make my husband happy.” “I’m the only person who can make her feel truly...

Jillian Aurora

Jan 29, 2020
2 min

STOP using the word NARCISSIST.

For a long time, I have stayed quiet on this issue. I just can’t anymore. I have been bothered by the overuse of the word “Narcissist”...

Jillian Aurora

Jan 29, 2020
2 min

Men Deserve Better

“Man hater!” “You just believe men are the problem.” “Feminist.” “You’re making men feel emasculated.” I’ve seen and felt so many...

Jillian Aurora

Dec 28, 2019
2 min

How to find "The One".

The search for “the one” seems to add a ton of pressure to the dating scene. We are so consumed with finding the right person - our...

Jillian Aurora

Dec 23, 2019
2 min

RESENTMENT isn't THE ENEMY.

The gift that doesn’t really feel like a gift… The gift I have ignored, suppressed, and shoved away from me. The gift I have many times...

Jillian Aurora

Dec 23, 2019
2 min

EMBRACE Your Negative Emotions

It is truly amazing to me the number of ways we have learned to suppress our feelings and then convince ourselves it is the right thing...

Jillian Aurora

Dec 5, 2019
2 min

Monsters

The Monsters we fear: The rapists. The child molestors. The addicts and alcoholics. The greedy. The violent abusers. The power...

Jillian Aurora

Mar 31, 2022

How to spot a predator

Every time I hear of a good hearted individual who has been exploited, taken advantage of, and preyed upon, I feel a burning and...

Jillian Aurora

Jun 11, 2021

He Deserves More Than Your Pity

Pity Love… Some of you are out there thinking… “I can’t leave because he won’t know what to do without me” “I don’t know what he would do...

Jillian Aurora

Jun 5, 2021

We Have A Problem With Men's Violence

Ahmad Al Aliwi Alissa killed 10 people on March 22, 2021 at a market in Boulder CO. 21 year old male, no criminal record, motivation...

Jillian Aurora

Jun 4, 2021

The Art of Dehumanization

“Anyone who isn’t a Patriot is a Traitor.” “Anyone who supports Trump is a White Supremacist.” “I refuse to unify with THEM.” We are...

Jillian Aurora

Apr 28, 2021

The Illusion of Easy Exits

“There’s always a time to easily exit a relationship. It’s during those bad times that define a true power couple.” I read this comment a...

Jillian Aurora

Apr 26, 2021

Let's Talk About Trust

“I don’t know how to learn to trust again.” I hear this OVER and OVER. Then I hear some version of desperately trying to figure out how...

Jillian Aurora

Apr 24, 2021

You Say You Want A Man Who....

You say you want a man who knows how to treat you well, yet you joke about men being so oblivious and dense they need “training”. You say...

Jillian Aurora

Mar 31, 2021

When You're the Exception

"None of the other women he’s been with could handle him.” “No one has taken the time to love him the way he needs.” “He’s an unruly...

Jillian Aurora

Mar 20, 2021

It's Time We Take Responsibility

When a woman shows up with a black eye, do you look for a reason to excuse his violence? When a woman is embarrassed about the verbal...

Jillian Aurora

Mar 12, 2021

We Fight For Every Woman

My abuser could smell a powerful woman from a mile away. He knew my exposure to her intense, free spirited independence might make me...

Jillian Aurora

Feb 26, 2021

Let's Talk About Loyalty

We traditionally see loyalty as a good thing. It’s one of the most POWERFUL values of the “good girl” identity. “I am GOOD because I am...

Jillian Aurora

Feb 22, 2021

Love Shouldn't Be Transactional

There are many reasons I have heard women use to justify their own mistreatment. There were many ways I myself justified relationships...

Jillian Aurora

Feb 19, 2021

Boundaries

Often when people start to wake up to the idea of boundary setting, it is overwhelming. What boundaries do I set? Am I really allowed to...

Jillian Aurora

Feb 17, 2021

You Were Created for MORE

You were created for more than having a relationship. Yet, many of us women live as if it is our sole objective. Like we are incomplete...

Jillian Aurora

Feb 15, 2021

Settling is Always Based in Fear

“You can’t always get what you want.” “You have to be realistic.” “You just have to take what you can get.” “Better to play it safe.”...

Jillian Aurora

Feb 12, 2021

Relationships Require Settling?

My whole life, I have heard people say “relationships require compromise”, “every relationship requires a degree of settling”, and “you...

Jillian Aurora

Feb 10, 2021

Stand Tall & Own Your Boundaries

“You’re such a buzz kill.” These were the words used to describe me, after I told a guest substances were not allowed in my home. These...

My Resentment Is One of My Most Profound Gifts

Jillian Aurora

Feb 8, 2021

My Resentment Is One of My Most Profound Gifts

My resentment is one of my most profound gifts. Yep. I didn’t mistype that. My resentment shows me where I am compromising my standards...

Jillian Aurora

Feb 5, 2021

Let's Talk About Manifestation

“If I just ‘manifest better’ my relationship will improve.” “People around me are abusive because they are a reflection of my inner...

Jillian Aurora

Feb 4, 2021

You Are Worthy of Boundaries

Don’t ever expect people who are taking advantage of you to celebrate your boundaries. They will be the ones who will bring up ALL the...

Jillian Aurora

Dec 30, 2020

You Are Not FRAGILE.

I refuse to treat you as fragile. I understand you have been through hell. I understand you have been cruelly kicked down and belittled....

Jillian Aurora

Dec 28, 2020

When Does It Get Easier?

When do I get to stop having these difficult conversations? When will people stop trying to break into my life, creating chaos? When will...