The Dark Side of the Good Girl

Updated: Dec 31, 2021

I used to value the good girl and all her ways.


Tiptoeing around everyone's feelings.


Giving the shirt off my back.


Prioritizing compassion, understanding, and forgiveness.


Never giving up on ANYTHING.


Never appearing rude, demanding, or inconvenient.


NEVER EVER having a hint of SELFISHNESS.




Those were the values that governed my life, without limits.




And, those values crushed me. I couldn’t figure out why.




Until I discovered those very “good” things had a very dark side.


My compassion turned into enabling and codependency.


My empathy turned me into a doormat.


My loyalty kept me sticking around for abuse.


My generosity left me in debt and resentful.


My understanding and forgiveness turned into self betrayal.


My tenacity turned into manipulation.


My kindness turned into dishonesty and inauthenticity.


My selflessness turned into a total loss of myself.




I am an incredibly STUBBORN individual. SO, I chose a lot of suffering before I got the lessons. ;-)




👉I chose professions that took advantage of me.


👉I chose clients who took advantage of me.


👉I chose relationships that consumed me in every way.




I chose into experiences where I felt ripped off, trampled on, and exhausted, desperately trying to figure out WHY ME? Why did I get the “shitty hand of cards I was dealt”? Why was I the one who constantly got the “raw deal”?




😢I told myself it was because I just had a big heart.


😢Poor me.


😢No one had any respect anymore.


😢I was SO NICE and no one repaid my generosity.