Shame cannot survive when it is spoken.

Updated: Dec 21, 2021

"You destroyed my life when you got that restraining order.” “If you hadn’t told everyone about our private business, we’d still have a chance to be together.” “You betrayed me when you told everyone about my problems.” “Because you opened your big mouth, I’m in legal trouble.” “Our conflicts are our business, no one else’s.” “Our relationship is over because of you.” “I’m a good person and you made me out to be a monster.” “Your mouth ruined me.” These are all common responses by a man with an abuse problem who has been held accountable for his abuse.