Relationships Require Settling?

Updated: Dec 14, 2021

My whole life, I have heard people say “relationships require compromise”, “every relationship requires a degree of settling”, and “you can’t have everything you want”.



And for years, I believed it.



I believed part of loving someone required suffering. Frustration. And dissatisfaction. You “can’t have it all”, right?



Today I think this is a bit of a trick question.



Relationships DO require settling only IF you believe they do.



I fully, 100% believe we will always get what we are willing to settle for. And at one point, I was willing to settle for a lot.



I settled for a partner who wasn’t interested in his emotional or spiritual growth.

I settled for a partner who refused to make his health a priority.

I settled for a partner who had no interest in collaborating with me or making decisions together.

I settled for a partner who saw me as a possession instead of a partner.

I settled for a partner who had very different financial values than I did.

I settled for a partner who had a wife role all picked out for me to follow.

I settled for a partner who was threatened by my gifts.

I settled for a partner who sought to dominate me.

I settled for a partner who spoke cruel words to me.

I settled for a partner who enjoyed scaring me.

I settled for a partner who refused to discuss his hurtful