Updated: Nov 11, 2020
"Don’t let him break your boundaries!”
“You gotta nip their disrespect in the bud!”
“You must make them respect you!”
These statements create so much confusion and misunderstanding about boundary setting.
The truth is, you can’t MAKE anyone respect your boundaries. You can’t MAKE anyone respect YOU.
THAT is what makes boundaries the bravest thing you will ever do. Because boundaries mean risking your relationships for the sake of having your own back. Boundaries mean respecting YOURSELF even when others DON’T. Boundaries mean being willing to LOSE ANYTHING in order to treat yourself with HONOR and RESPECT.
The MAGIC that happens when we respect our own boundaries, is we GET to lose relationships that are not a match in order to create space for the people who ARE. When we honor and respect OURSELVES, we only create space for those who ALSO honor and respect us.